Meaningful Connections

11 05 2017

Why we meet people? Some always stay and others don’t? Why some relationship create stress?

In this fast life which according to us is so well connected, we find everyone networking over social media, parties and clubs.  We talk and interact with many and at times we just scroll down our list of contacts on our smart phones and WhatsApp and …and … ‘No one’. Not even one? to share what you exactly feel like at this point. Then what about those 300 likes on Facebook, what about your recent date?

We all have got drawn towards this Instant friendship and with a device in hand feel we are connected. Then how do we have more meaningful people in our lives?

Geoffrey S. Fletcher an American screenwriter, film director quoted “It’s so easy today to get swept up in celebrity fixation and materialism and searching for some validation outside of yourself when we know it’s really found within and through meaningful connections with other people.”

So here I am introspecting, after a few heart breaks and fake relationships asking myself – Why we meet different people? Who to keep? And why some people will never be there for you?

The need to belong–to feel that you have people to turn to–is so basic but what circle you create around you will create you.  According to me a meaningful connection is about the positive or constructive energy existing between two people when there is an interaction have a feeling of appreciation, drive, value and look forward to share and reciprocate.

As you grow up you remember all those people who contributed to your life and made a positive difference. You exactly have to think the same, meeting new people will add to your experience, but making right ones you close network will help you to build positive life and it matters a lot.  I often see people being described or labeled by their family and friends and because you believe in your close ones you believe what they say. This can lead you to think too high or too low about yourself. It is thought important to network as it’s a fact that with strangers, we’re often freer and more expressive than we are at home, where loved ones tend to typecast us. We can stretch ourselves with acquaintances and move beyond familiar roles. It’s better to be alone then being with wrong people around.

Here is the key takeaway:

  • Invest more time into fewer relationships.
  • Don’t worry about being nice, good relationship is where you can be comfortable and be respected for who you are.
  • Strike off the names which make you feel low, miserable, and helpless or put you down.
  • Add people who give you more constructive outlook of world and from where you can learn.Being-Alone-Makes-You-Lonely
  • Absorb the good qualities that inspire you.
  • Don’t hurry to decide, discover people from their acts in different situations and decide your limits with close ones who typecast you and don’t have your worth. (Distance makes life easy at times.)
  • Never say good bye to old ones who you think are like minded. Be in touch through social sites or phone calls.
  • Creating an inner circle this isn’t an overnight job or by collecting thousands of them on social site. You have to put real effort into it, spending time learning about people and being there for them where you can. It’s not just what they can do for you, but also what you can do for them. As I said meaningful connection is valuing each other.

Unquestionably, the greatest assets we have in life are our relationships. Whether those are personal or professional, good relationships make our lives meaningful and so do real people.


The Journey

24 09 2016

You will hear them talking,

they are people from my past.

We have cherished the world and lived the tough

To reach that glorious path.

Here I go leaving every bit of me,

Waving a goodbye to the tribe that knew ‘Me’.

I carry those days of learning and wisdom,img-20160924-wa0064

deep down in my heart.

Waking through the long roads and dark tunnels,

across the sea and ocean, to the new world.

No one know who I am, nor do I know that today.

Let me search and toil through this time,

till the day world speaks about my glory again.

Where will you find god?

18 03 2013


17 01 2013


Antipathy Towards ‘Tolerance’

11 01 2013

Years back I recollect , when I was still graduating one of the guest lecturers  said ‘ Indians are preferred abroad as they are tolerant’. May be at that time this quality was a feel good factor.

When you google  on the word  ‘tolerance’ you have all cases of zero tolerance from around the west, quoting this as a problem.

But now here is the point I feel pathetic about. Tolerance  should be  strength and not weakness.

Yes, Indians are immensely tolerant.

We are tolerant about trains running late almost every day, we can just turn blind face to the garbage dump outside our office, houses , schools anywhere.

We are the one’s who can gossip over corrupt officers , traffic man , staff members and make an entertaining topic of it , blame it on someone and forget it.

We are so cool minded when we are stuck in traffic just because of wrong parking or some political or religious procession.

We sulk at high price and low pay and just do nothing about it.

We can walk in water logging and bad potholes on the road and still smile saying it’s an amusement park ride.

We can consume  unhygienic , second class products and say they are substandard and still use it every day.

 We can listen to our in logical bosses and yet keep working like donkeys.

We can read rape, murder , robbery headline ever day , ever where and yet just be ok with it next moment.

We can say thank god and hurray when electricity comes back after long hours.

I can bet tolerance has become our weakness and we are doing no great deal by letting things go.

Influence form west has changed our dressing , our language and lifestyle  but not our outlook which I think was most important of all.

Undressing emotions

10 09 2012

Here is a life as it goes,

Bluff and gimmick empty show.

Bond that look rosy and comfy,

Played anchor’s holding me hard

Walking against waves and winds

Without map or chart.

The rout I stroll were my own,

The costs paid were deep wounds.

All this just because I never wanted to cinch like masses

Was I stupid for what all things I did?

All that struggle for ascend; and fame

With no game and pelf.

     I have been fair to go out with my head erect,

All I deserve is all men’s respect.

It haunts me to be myself.

I pay cost of it by taking wounds on heart.

I am secure to be me, but not the part of clan

      I never can hide myself from me,

I see what others may never see,

I know what others may never know,

I don’t want to sore with injuries on my heart,

For being all good to thou

And make me run away for what I mean by ‘me’.

           But then I m tired of being maneuver and opposed

I am about to give up on me.

 And then I can glue a mask in which everyone likes me.

Is it Love….?

25 04 2012

Sometimes some thought touches your heart, this write up is one of such. All those who feel they are in love, here is a time to have reality check .

Here is something to ponder upon for all you people who say “I love you” when you have no clue what love is exactly!

Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest? It isn’t love, it’s like. You can’t keep your eyes or hands off of them? It isn’t love, it’s lust. Are you proud, and eager to show them off? It isn’t love, it’s luck. Do you want them because you know they’re there? It isn’t love, it’s loneliness. Are you there because it’s what everyone wants? It isn’t love, it’s loyalty. Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don’t want to hurt them? It isn’t love, it’s pity. Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat? It isn’t love, it’s infatuation. Do you pardon their faults because you care about them? It isn’t love, it’s friendship. Do you tell them every day they are the only ones you think of? It isn’t love, it’s a lie. Are you willing to give all of your favourite things for their sake? It isn’t love, it’s charity.

Does your heart ache and break when they’re sad? Then it’s love. Do you cry for their pain, even when they’re strong? Then it’s love. Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts? Then it’s love. Do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and holds you there? Then it’s love. Do you accept their faults because they’re a part of who they are? Then it’s love. Would you give them your heart, your life, your death? Then it’s love.


–          From the book Inspirational Quote